abarefootman Speaks Once More!
Well, it’s been a while since my last post, which looked like it could be the last, though I was still a little inconclusive about it.
Chatting with my good friend Rob, I realized that actually I do have a lot of say which could be of benefit to the world, things that people do need to hear. Whether they listen or not is up to them, and in a way is none of my business.
It suddenly became very apparent that I had been having one rule for myself and one for everyone else. I would never dare to say that someone shouldn’t speak unless they embody their words 100%, yet that was exactly what I was expecting of myself. Perfectionism is one of my most prominent flaws, and it has sapped my energy and my sense of fun and playful laughter more times than I can count. And the unflattering by-product of perfectionism? Control-freakism, and nothing turns someone into an unfeeling rigid funless creature than trying to be in control of everything with a vice-like grip, especially things that are meant to flow, like movements and emotions and thoughts, and even belief systems.
So, Rob and I figured it is time I started up journalling my journey again, for that’s really what this blog has always been about. I speak some wise words that sometimes I live up to and sometimes I don’t, but I no longer doubt that they can serve a purpose for anyone reading them, if they are so inclined to take something from them.
Don’t be too surprised if my style does change a bit, but I’ll let it unfold as it will, and whatever happens, it’ll be exactly as it needs to be.
September 29th, 2006 at 4:49 pm
Dude,
Good to have you back, I thought I’d posted a comment to your previous post a while ago, but I see it didn’t save.
I’ve tried to blog in a “take me as you find me” kinda way, I’ve always felt that the destination is nothing without the journey.
I’ve feel it’s OK to point things out, even if I’m guilty of them myself. I’m far from perfect, and I’m the first to admit it, but it’s better to acknowledge things and at least make the effort.
As a wise man once said “I’m not perfect and you’re not perfect, but hey, that’s perfect!”
Rich.
September 30th, 2006 at 12:35 pm
Ah Rich, thanks so much. That’s certainly the most empowering thing to do, “Take me as you find me, or don’t take me, find someone else”. Makes it real simple actually, leaves things down to personal choice, and no sense of having to be everything for everyone. Like Don Miguel Ruiz’s great Toltic Wisdom: “Don’t Take *Anything* Personally”.
And your last quote? That’s perfect
October 11th, 2006 at 11:38 pm
good to have you back lewis
a favorite song of mine, bascially says “be yourself is all that you can do”
beccaxx
October 12th, 2006 at 9:32 am
Thanks becca. It’s a fine sentiment indeed - similar in message to Sting’s song Englishman In New York: “Be yourself, no matter what they say”, that was always one of my favourites.
October 16th, 2006 at 12:03 am
beccaxx
October 7th, 2008 at 4:42 am
I blog my journey too…I feel that sharing our journeys can be so cathartic and helpful to others at the same time. It also gives me a lot to look back at to see where I have been going, when I have been flowing and how well I have been doing compared to how well I think I have been doing!
:oD